Anal sex might seem intimidating if you’ve never tried it before, but don’t let that stop you from giving it a go. “Anal sex is for anyone who wants to explore it!” says sex educator Searah Deysach, owner of online sex toy retailer Early to Bed. “It can be for people all across the gender and sexual orientations spectrums.” So whether you’re looking to try anal for the first time or add to your current positions repertoire, we rounded up a buttload (heh) of anal sex positions to make it great.
What makes for a good anal experience? “When both partners are enjoying themselves and no one is in pain. The sensations that both the giving and receiving partner experience can be unique, extremely pleasurable, and very erotic,” says Deysach. Plus, it can feel kind of edgy. “For some people, anal sex feels like a more taboo or kinky type of play, which can heighten the arousal for them.”
As with all sex, consent and talking things over with your partner is a must. “If you are interested in being the receiving partner of anal penetration, be sure that you are communicating with you partner, starting very slowly (like with a finger or small toy) and using lots of body-safe lube,” says Deysach. “Avoid any numbing lube or gel as pain is your body’s way of saying stop (or slow down).” And if you don’t want to go straight to penetration with a penis or strap-on, you can experiment with rimming or these almost-anal test positions. Before you back that ass up, a couple of gigantically important tips:
Lube=everything.“Your anus is a magical and beautiful place that can do some fantastic things, however, lubricating itself is not one of them,” says sex expert and relationship coach Niki Davis-Fainbloom. “A continual application of lubrication is necessary when penetrating someone with a finger, penis, or toy.”
Stay safe. “Play it smart. Remember, only six bodily fluids transmit HIV. Four can be commonly exchanged during anal sex: blood, anal fluids, cum, and pre-cum. Wear a condom to keep butt play safe and sexy, ” says Twanna A. Hines, M.S, award-winning sexual health educator. “No double dipping! If a penis, finger, toy, or other object has entered your anus, wash it before putting it inside your vagina. If you don’t, you can increase your chances of contracting a UTI, yeast infection, bacterial vaginosis, or other infection.”
If you’re still not quite sure about all this (which, totally fine! You never have to do anything you don’t want to do.), here’s a little anal pep talk: “The body contains too many delicious holes to limit pleasure to a couple of openings,” says Hines. “Think outside of the box, or hole, as it were. If your current sexual practices have become routine, exploring anal can be a great way to spice things up.”
Here are some positions to try on for size: